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The term "gay" was coined in the late 19th century by English writer Herbert Butterfield. He defined a gay man as someone who identifies with the "sexual practice of the male sex," which includes homosexuality. Butterfield's definition of gay was more open-minded than the term "gay" used in today's society, which is primarily defined by heterosexuality. Butterfield's work has influenced writers and artists from Mark Twain to Neil Gaiman.
Gay pride was first organized in 1977 by the Gay and Lesbian Rights Campaign, the world's first major LGBTQ group. Since then, the movement has made strides to increase visibility and awareness, including in the popular media and by speaking out on social issues such as domestic violence, hate crimes and sexual assault. Since 2007, the GLBTQ Foundation has led the way in educating the world about the LGBTQ community, including in the workplace and on college campuses. The Foundation's mission is to "support the full full spectrum of the LGBTQ community." It has been recognized by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and the Human gay chat rooms Rights Campaign as a partner organization. While most gay men are not out to their friends and families, there is a growing body of literature on gay men and relationships, which makes it easier for men to find love. This makes the gay man a valuable dating option. But before you can find a partner, you will need to know who he is and how he thinks. "Being openly gay is not easy," says Jason L. Parga, a professor in the department of communication at University of Massachusetts Boston. "Even if you were a closeted gay person, you might still be perceived as gay. The same is true for guys who identify as asexual, pansexual or aromantic. These terms don't quite define the experience of being queer, but at least they are more specific."
The Gay Bar Association of San Francisco estimates that the gay male population in the San Francisco Bay Area has grown from 12,500 in 1989 to 28,000 in 2010. According to their census, there are roughly 100,000 gays in the United States, with more coming out each year. That is a big increase, which can be explained by the Internet. "In the '90s, there was a lot of social acceptance for sexual fluidity," says Parga. "I don't think that is a good thing."
Parga's most recent book, Queer as Folk, is a collection of stories, poems and essays that deal with the experiences of gay men around the world. He is not a homophobe, but he is wary of the way his community has been portrayed in the media. "I'm pretty confident in saying that the media has a responsibility to portray people fairly, and fairly accurately, and fairly transparently," he says.
"I'm just an unapologetic, honest-to-god gay man who is totally comfortable being who he is. I would never be accused of 'pretending' or 'playing' for the sake of being 'pretended' or 'played' by anybody. I would be accused of being straight."
Parga says the first gay guy gay men sites he met was someone in the bar he worked at, the Red Lion, and that the man was immediately attracted to Parga. He says that, at the time, he didn't know if it was because of his sexuality or a result of being there. "I was very lucky," he says. "The bar manager, who had no idea at the time who I was, thought that maybe I was a member of the club, because the guy looked familiar."
"Then you get invited gay men singles to the bar for the first time, and you get to spend some time hanging out with a good-looking, fun-loving, cool-looking, outgoing guy, who, like, really likes you and makes you feel at ease, and it seems like everybody wants to be around you, but you don't have to do anything."
Parga's work at the Red Lion eventually led to him going on to work for a different bar where the same-sex couple were part of the mix, which led to the man and the woman becoming regulars.
"They got pretty comfortable with me, and I would go up to them and make them coffee, and they would start hanging out with me in the bar, and I'd see them around the place. One time, when I was working there, I was out with a guy in the bar. We got on really well, and he started talking to me, and we started hanging out with him, and I started to feel like I could have some fun."
"I was really attracted to him," Parga says. "He was super fun-loving and easy-going, and he talked about his work all the time, but he was really nice and laidback, which was the sort of guy I wanted to meeting gay guys online hang out with. I guess the way I was able to fit into this situation was meet gay guys online that I knew what I liked about him, and what he liked about me. Once I figured that out, I could just ask the other guy, and we would just talk."
He found that by doing that, he was able to start dating the couple, which in turn led to a relationship with his husband of five years, who he is now seeing. Parga says that although it was online gay chat a great experience at the Red Lion, it wasn't the way he originally planned.
"It was an amazing situation," he says. "I really, really wanted to be married, so it was really exciting to me."
In addition to dating and hanging out, Parga also started to develop some hobbies and interests that led him to become an avid user of social media. He says he was already very interested in technology and computer programming before he met his future partner, and so after they met, he began developing apps that he could use to interact with the people in his life. In the end, he says, this led to the creation of a dating app called Bachelors, which is a platform that allows users to create profiles, connect with people they're interested in, and find other Bachelors in the same area. The app is currently available to both men and women. He also started a social networking site called Tumblrs where users can share their profiles and posts. It's not a dating site in the traditional sense, but it is a place where users can meet others they might be interested in, and share their experiences, like his first date. "The Tumblrs is more like a community," he says. "There's no need to search for a date because you can do that in Bachelors."
Tumblrs, like Bachelors, was built to be a platform for sharing your dating experiences. Users can connect with others, share stories about their first date, and make plans for later dates. Bachelors, on the other hand, is meant gay dating sites online to be a place where members can go to share their dating experiences and find a mate. That's where he came in.